#6: Codependence Is Not a Love Language
Episode Summary:
In this episode of Not Your Therapist, Kayla Reilly dives into the often-misunderstood topic of codependence. Is it just another buzzword or something deeper? Kayla breaks down what codependence really is, how it might show up in your life, and the hidden ways it can damage your mental health and relationships. She also explores the ongoing debate in the psychology world about whether codependence is even a valid concept or simply a misunderstood aspect of attachment styles.
By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a better understanding of:
The signs and roots of codependence.
Why it’s harmful to both you and your relationships.
Practical steps to break free from codependent patterns.
Insights into the differing psychological perspectives on codependence.
Whether you’ve struggled with codependence or just want to build healthier, more balanced relationships, this episode is a must-listen!
What You’ll Learn:
What is codependence? A clear definition and common signs.
The roots of codependence: How early experiences shape codependent behaviors.
The debate: Why some psychologists, like Dr. Julie Gottman, view codependence through the lens of attachment theory.
The cost of codependence: How it can lead to burnout, loss of identity, and stalled growth.
Actionable steps: How to recognize, address, and break free from codependent habits.
Memorable Quotes:
“Codependence often feels like love, but true love allows space for both people to grow and thrive.”
“Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away; they’re about protecting your energy and ensuring healthy interactions.”
“Whether you prefer the term codependence or look at it through attachment theory, the goal is the same: healthier, more balanced relationships.”
Action Steps:
Reflect on whether you recognize any codependent patterns in your own life.
Practice setting a small boundary this week—start with something simple and build from there.
Consider seeking support through therapy or a support group to help navigate these behaviors.
Share this episode with a friend or loved one who might benefit from learning about codependence.
Connect with Kayla:
Website: www.kaylareilly.com
Instagram: @KaylaReillyTherapist
Podcast: Subscribe to Not Your Therapist on Spotify , Apple Podcasts or Amazon Music.
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