#5: 5 Signs it’s Time to Fire Your Therapist
Not all therapeutic relationships are created equal—and let’s face it, some therapists just aren’t the right fit. In this episode of Not Your Therapist, Kayla Reilly dishes on 5 major red flags that it’s time to fire your therapist. From forgetting who you are to letting you vent without giving you tools, Kayla shares the signs that scream it’s time to move on. Plus, she breaks down what a great therapist should bring to the table and how to advocate for yourself when therapy isn’t working. If you’ve ever felt stuck or stagnant in your therapy, this episode is for you!
What You’ll Learn:
Red flag #1: Your therapist doesn’t remember you or your story.
Red flag #2: They let you vent without providing tools or structure.
Red flag #3: They judge you, give biased advice, or minimize your feelings.
Red flag #4: There’s no accountability or forward progress in your sessions.
Red flag #5: They push too hard, offering unrealistic or overwhelming expectations.
What good therapy looks like: The traits of a healthy, productive therapeutic relationship.
How to end things gracefully: Tips for advocating for yourself and finding a better fit.
Memorable Quotes:
“If your therapist can’t even remember who you are, it might be time to rethink that relationship.”
“Therapy isn’t just about venting; it’s about growing. You deserve a therapist who has a plan to help you move forward.”
“A great therapist will meet you where you are, not push you into expectations that don’t fit your life.”
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Kayla’s Free Resource: Get Unstuck – 3 Strategies to a New You
Action Steps:
Reflect on whether any of these red flags resonate with your current therapeutic relationship.
Advocate for yourself by discussing your concerns with your therapist—or, if needed, start looking for someone new.
Research therapists who specialize in your needs and align with your goals for growth.
Share this episode with friends or loved ones who might need a nudge to rethink their therapy.
Connect with Kayla:
Website: www.kaylareilly.com
Instagram: @NotYourTherapist.Kayla
Podcast: Subscribe to Not Your Therapist on Spotify , Apple Podcasts or Amazon Music.
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