#21 Validate Yourself in 3 Steps and Build Confidence
Ever hit a milestone and still feel... kinda hollow? Or find yourself needing everyone else’s opinion before you can trust your own? Been there. And spoiler alert: It’s not because you’re broken.
It’s because most of us were raised in homes where self-validation wasn’t modeled—so now we second-guess everything from our feelings to our freaking lunch order. In this episode, I’m breaking down why learning to validate yourself is the foundation for real confidence, calm, and clarity.
We’ll talk about:
Why “outsourcing your reality” leaves you anxious, resentful, and stuck
How your inner critic got installed (and how to replace it)
Three self-validation practices that actually work—no journal prompts required
This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about naming what’s real, responding to yourself like someone who actually likes you, and learning to separate past triggers from present-day truth.
If you’re done twisting yourself up trying to be palatable, likable, or agreeable—this one’s for you.
Ready to become your own biggest ally? Hit play. Then send this to the friend who needs to hear, “You make sense. You’re doing great. You don’t need permission to feel how you feel.”
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